No, she isn't "special".
No, it's not because we don't "understand your special connection".
No, it's not because you feel "it's worth taking the chance".
No, she isn't an "amazing woman". She is only amazing to YOU because you've had little to no success with other women.
Now that we have that out of the way, let's get to it.....
As with most things in life, not doing the right things (usually that means the difficult things) often leads to negative consequences. In this blog we've discussed how Nice Guys Finish Last and how most men today walk around carrying these Common Myths that have virtually destroyed their dating life.
Most guys are either too stubborn or too lazy….or both….and they refuse to put in the work necessary to change how they think or behave. There are only two possible end results to this path:
- Either you're always alone or...
- You end up "getting lucky" and landing that all important girlfriend that becomes the center of your world.
When you have no understanding of how women's attraction triggers work, you'll end up with one of these 4 Types of Women Who Will Date a Nice Guy. She will be the center of your world and your only reason for living because you've had years of little to no success. This creates a vortex of desperation that dominates your entire relationship. The symptoms of this type of relationship are:
- You are in constant fear of saying or doing the wrong things because she may leave you.
- You are ultra-sensitive to her every need; anything she wants, you'll get it or do it for her.
- You are easily hurt by anything she says that remotely shows she doesn't feel about you in the enormous way you feel about her.
- You feel that you are the luckiest man in the world to have her, even though you have had very little experience with other women to compare her to.
- You constantly think about how she feels but she rarely, if ever, takes your feelings into consideration.
- You put up with bad behavior from her such as unreasonable demands, temper tantrums, and using other men to make you jealous. Even though you don't feel this is right, you talk yourself into putting up with it and you end up making excuses for her.
These symptoms are indicative of a man who fears losing the woman because he does not know when the next woman will "give him a shot" again. This is the very core definition of "Desperation". When this happens, regardless of what the woman does, the man will never leave her. In fact, in most cases, the woman ends up leaving and the guy devotes all his time to getting her back…without any success.
The saddest, most pathetic level that a man can reach is when he is in a position where losing her CANNOT be an option. When a man reaches this point in his life, he has lost the very essence of being a man. When a man reaches this low point, everything else in his life will eventually fall apart.
The diagram below illustrates the thought process that men have when they're in a relationship based on desperation. Click on the chart for a larger view:
The saddest, most pathetic level that a man can reach is when he is in a position where losing her CANNOT be an option. When a man reaches this point in his life, he has lost the very essence of being a man. When a man reaches this low point, everything else in his life will eventually fall apart.
The diagram below illustrates the thought process that men have when they're in a relationship based on desperation. Click on the chart for a larger view:
In an earlier post we discussed about Knowing When To Walk Away. However, if you're in a desperate state of mind as illustrated in the chart above, then you're going to stay no matter how much the woman shits on you because you have no where else to go. That is a special kind of hell that is absolutely unnecessary because life doesn't have to be that way.
Throughout this blog there are posts here that will help you understand why you've ended up in this position and how to undo the brain washing that's plagued you for so long. Only when you stop doing what you've been doing and learn to interact with women differently will you find success with beautiful and loving women.
Immediate Course of Action
1) Cease ALL contact
2) Burn ALL possible contact information
3) Cease ALL contact IMMEDIATELY
- No, you don't need "closure"
- No, she doesn't need you
- No, there isn't a misunderstanding
- No, you can't be friends
- No, you're not going to "leave it up to her"
- No, you're not going to answer if she reaches out to you and makes you feel guilty
So once again...burn all contact information and cease all communication....not tomorrow....NOW.
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