Using A Unique Skill To Pick Up Women

For the purpose of this post I'll use magic as the "unique skill".  However, you can replace magic with singing or composing a song, writing poetry, painting, drawing or anything of that nature.

As a magician, one of the most common questions men ask me is, "Can you teach me a trick that will help me pick up women?" On message board forums one of the most frequently asked questions by teenage boys is, "What is the best trick to ask a girl out to prom/dance/date?"

I'll start by answering both questions, I'll explain why, and then help you understand what you need to do so that you don't have to ask those questions anymore.


The Answers

"Can you teach me a trick that will help me pick up women?" 

I would if there was one that existed.  There is not a single magic trick that will make women feel attraction for you.  You may garner some interest but it won't be sexual or romantic attraction.  Once the trick is over, she'll walk away.

"What is the best trick to ask a girl out to prom/dance/date?"

None.  There isn't a magic trick will make a girl want to say "Yes" to a prom, a dance, or want to date you.  In other words, if she will not say "Yes" without a magic trick, even if you performed a really good illusion for her, she still won't change her answer.


Explanation

The reason why a magic trick or doing something romantic won't make a girl feel any sexual attraction towards you is because you're approaching it from a mindset of Fear.  When a woman feels attraction for you then doing things like a magic trick will be appreciated and valued.  However, the biggest mistake men make is they try to do romantic or cool things in order to evoke attraction and that never works.  It'll only make you look desperate. 

Attraction for women is based on your social value as a man.  The core values are:

1) If other women are attracted to you.  Are you popular with other women in your social circle or the venue you're in?  If you're not then women will not want you.  Have you ever notice that men who have women already can always can get attractive women easier?

2) If you have no fear of them.  Are you overly concern about what women think of you? Are you displaying needy behaviors?  If you reek of fear then no matter how romantic or creative you are she'll still not feel any attraction for you.

3) Are you comfortable in your own skin and in any social situation?  Here is the acid test: If you were at a social gathering and you couldn't do a magic trick, would you still be to interact with women and men in such a way that will make them want to hang out with you?

If you have the above "popularity" then not only will you NOT have to do a magic trick to ask a girl out to the prom, she'll be hoping you'll ask.  That's true attraction.  Same thing with women in any venue outside of a school setting; if you have the above social value then a woman will easily want you to come up and start a conversation with her, without having to resort to magic tricks.


Don't ask a woman if this is a good idea

If you ask a woman advice on this topic you will almost always get the wrong advice.  When a woman tells you that doing something such as a romantic magic trick, telling her how you feel, or giving her flowers is a good idea, she is imaging it coming from a man she is already attracted to mentally, physically, and emotional.  If you follow her advice and try to use those same things to try and generate attraction you'll find that it will completely backfire and make the woman actually retreat from you.

For this and many other reasons, this is why you should Never listen to what a woman SAYS she is attracted to, but instead WATCH what she is attracted to.


Your real problem and how to resolve it

Your real issue here isn't how you can craft the perfect magic performance to get her to say "yes" to the prom.  Your real issue here isn't finding that mind blowing magic trick that will make a girl want to give you her phone number and go out with you.  Your real issue here is that you don't understand how female attraction triggers work.

Fortunately there are several posts on this blog that addresses your core problems.  Read the following 3 posts and start working on yourself as a man so that you're attractive to women in general and you will not need to rely on gimmicks and tricks.  Once you remove the brain washing that pretty and sexy women are superior to you and start behaving like a normal, social, and interesting man, you'll find that those same women will naturally be drawn to you.....and that will be real, not a magic trick.

1. Common Myths All Guys Have
2. Why Women Are Attracted To Assholes
3. Why Nice Guys Really Do Finish Last