~ Theodore Roosevelt
When you guys start off on this journey to "get more women", many of you probably find out that it isn't really about that. Many of you quickly discovered that your life in general probably needs a pretty big overhaul.
You also quickly discovered how difficult this overhaul can be. If you haven't had a lot of experience in dating, you're probably shocked as to how difficult even getting a simple date can be.
Fail safe routines, secret female attraction triggers, easy to implement attraction gambits, and turning your sex life around in 30 days....well....those shortcuts start to sound pretty good. "Just tell me what to say to make her like me. Just tell me what to do to get sex". Men ask me that all the time such as this post here.
There is an old Asian parable that goes something like this:
There are Lotus flowers that grow around an area with volcanoes. Typically Lotus are very sensitive plants and can only grow during certain times of the year. When the conditions aren't perfect they die off quickly.
However, throughout the years people have noticed that the Lotus that grew near the heat of the volcanoes and survived were able to weather harsh conditions. So as the Lotus that weren't near the volcanoes died off quickly as the seasons changed, the ones near the volcanoes survived and actually were more brilliant in color.
The Lotus flowers that figured out a way to grow under the heat of the volcanoes thrived even in poor conditions during other times of the year.
The single biggest problem with the way boys are raised today is mental and emotional weakness. Parents are friends instead of life coaches and guides. Single mothers have become the norm. Fathers are either a bad example or non existent.
We have encouraged a society of ultra sensitive people who are offended by every single little thing. We have encouraged entitlement instead of hard work. Words such as strength, will power, fortitude, values, morals, ethics, and integrity have no meaning.
So now these boys grow up to be adults, but not men. They expect immediate gratification and are completely incapable of handling rejections of any kind. Like those sensitive Lotus flowers, once the conditions aren't absolutely perfect, they simply wither away. Fear, not courage, have become the driving force behind men today.
The difficulties you are facing right now is something that you should have gone through growing up. Hard times are meant to toughen you up so you can weather life's hard conditions. We don't prepare boys to be men anymore. Difficulties with women is just a symptom of a much larger problem.
So yes...the next few years for you is going to be tough. It will be ugly, frustrating, and you're going to feel that you're taking 3 steps forward and 2 steps back...sometimes 4 steps back. But I promise you that if you never stop pushing, never stop learning, and never stop getting up and fighting, you'll get there. It's impossible not to.
These hardships...doing the difficult thing instead of taking the easy shortcuts...will give you an aura that makes women say, "There is just something about him...." Weak men never give off that vibe. That vibe can't be taught, you can't get it from a book, a forum or a blog, a bootcamp, or a DVD. You have to earn it. There are no shortcuts.
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This video is a commencement speech given by Admiral William H McHaven, commander of the US Special Operations and former Navy Seal. This 20 minute video is worth every second of your time and is better than anything I could ever write.
Do yourself a huge favor and listen carefully:
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