Women That Set Themselves Up To Be Cheated On

When a man cheats on a woman, whether it is celebrities or someone in our personal lives, it is common practice to put the blame 100% on the man.  Is the guy wrong? Absolutely.  This post isn't about excusing the cheating man's bad behavior.  What this post is about is women (and society in general) excusing other women from all responsibility in the situation.

Most people know who Sandra Bullock is; she's America's sweetheart, funny, pretty, intelligent, and by all accounts a professional that everyone wants to work with.  Now of all the people in the world that she decided to marry, she picks Jesses James.  A man who was married to a porn star.

(Intelligence or professional success has absolutely nothing to do with decision making when it comes to attraction...we'll get to that in future posts)

When Bullock's friend's found out she was dating him, James said, "all of her friends, absolutely, like 100 percent, [were] like, 'No way, we're putting a stop to this. This is no good".  What most well meaning friends don't know is that when you tell most women not to do something, they want to do it more.

Often times women do not take responsibility for the consequences of their decisions.  They pick the guy that is the biggest challenge and then express shock when the inevitable happens.  If you read most comments, the general consensus is "poor Sandra Bullock", but that is excusing her from her poor decision making.  She went after a guy who was notorious for dating extremely promiscuous women.  She took on the challenge and got burned.  That's her responsibility.   Halle Berry had the same problem.  Jennifer Aniston also falls into this category.

It would be the equivalent of me dating a stripper and then complaining that too many men gawk at her and that she takes her clothes off too much.  Seriously?  Would anyone feel sorry for the me?  Of course not.  What would most people say? They would say "what did you expect?"  But we don't put that same layer of logic on women when they select high risk men.

There are many reasons why women are naturally attracted to men who can get other women.  We'll certainly have several posts that break down the "why".  Attraction isn't a choice.  People think they have a choice, but they don't.  But if women do not take the time to be a bit more self aware and stop making poor decisions that lead to unhealthy relationships, they have to take some responsibility for the consequences when the inevitable happens.

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Sandra Bullock's Friends Warned Her

Jesse James Reputation with Women